The following is a guest post from Elizabeth Ross from The Mom Pledge. There are all kinds of moms out in internet land who have no patience for the Mommy Wars! YAHOO! The more of us who stand up for each other the better. I love what Elizabeth says about where we need to start when it comes to bullying: with ourselves.

Pledge buttonWhen I made the decision to leave my career to care full time for my daughter, I was not the least bit prepared for the intense and overwhelming sense of isolation that would follow. It was a difficult transition.

I desperately needed to feel connected. Fortunately, through blogging and social media over the past several years, I have gained a new network. And at any given time, I can get online and communicate with other moms.

The value of that cannot be measured.

The Internet offers an unprecedented opportunity for women to connect. With over 34 million moms online today, many spending as many as 66 hours a month, some have more Internet interactions than real life ones.

For the most part, the online experience is a positive one. The Internet serves as a wonderful source of information and support for many moms. But there is a dark side.

MomPlege_memeIt has also given the so-called “Mommy Wars” new life, and the conflict has spread far beyond the traditional work or stay at home debate. Today, every parenting decision a woman makes leaves her open to attack, and there are no winners.

There are individuals and groups of women who engage in sustained, deliberate attempts to hurt or humiliate other individuals or groups of women via the Internet over different parenting philosophies. I see it every day.

We hear a lot about bullying among our children and youth in the news these days. But few people realize it happens regularly among adults. I am working to change that.

I do not believe we will ever succeed in helping our children with the problem of bullying until and unless we take a hard look at adult attitudes and behaviors. That is why I launched The Mom Pledge.

The Pledge is for any mom who spends time on the Internet. It is a set of principles women commit to following in all their online activities. At The Mom Pledge Community, we believe in treating other moms with respect, even when we have different ideas about how to raise our children.

The tone we set online translates to attitudes and behaviors our children can see. And we all know they learn from our actions more than our words. We want to set the right example, and would love to have you join us!

ERoss2retouchElizabeth blogs about her struggles and successes as a writer and a mom at The Writer Revived. She is the author of Cacophony: How The Mommy Wars Have Reached New Heights Online and Today’s Mom Simply Cannot Win, which she is currently working to get published. In March 2011 she launched The Mom Pledge, an online campaign to eradicate cyber bullying among moms. You can connect with her on TwitterFacebook and Google+. She loves social media!

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